It’s funny, you keep hearing the same bullshit from different dudes – its like they all have a master-list o’crap they refer to when they decide they want to ‘participate’ in discussions about feminism – with the bonus effect of trying to make it all about them. Add the cherry-of-equality on top and there you have the stage set for derailment and vexation.
So let’s get the armour on and tackle the first of those oh so special Zombie lies that dudes like to resurrect in feminist discussions.
- Women have a hell of a lot of privilege when it comes to custody of children.
– In 29 percent of custody cases, the decision was made without any third party involvement.
– In 11 percent of custody cases, the decision for mom to have custody was made during mediation.
– In 5 percent of custody cases, the issue was resolved after a custody evaluation.
– Only 4 percent of custody cases went to trial and of that 4 percent, only 1.5 percent completed custody litigation.
In other words, 91 percent of child custody after divorce is decided with no interference from the family court system. How can there be a bias toward mothers when fewer than 4 percent of custody decisions are made by the Family Court?
Additionally, when men DO want custody of the children, even abusive fathers, they are successful 70% of the time.
Lie Dispatched.
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February 11, 2016 at 5:54 am
roughseasinthemed
Believe it or not, I do feel sorry for men who don’t get to see much of their kids. And cope with all the grief, and cook for them. And pick up after them. And have to stay in to look after them. And have to put their children first every single day.
Mostly I think more people should have sensible adult discussions. Like we did:
‘I don’t want kids.’
‘I don’t either.’
Easy really.
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February 11, 2016 at 10:52 am
Emma
MRAs and their ilk live in an alternate reality where up is down and black is white, that much is obvious.
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February 11, 2016 at 10:54 am
The Arbourist
@Emma
Unfortunately, because their ideas are rooted in patriarchal norms, they get a lot of traction and thus the small number of MRA idiots can make a lot of waves. :/
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February 12, 2016 at 1:24 am
carlalouise89
Again, so good and so important.
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February 12, 2016 at 7:27 am
The Arbourist
@carlalousie89
Thank you. The man-o-sphere’s lies are pervasive and need to be rolled up, so at the very least they can find a new set of lies.
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February 14, 2016 at 1:01 am
jodiethalegend
This thing about women being ‘privileged’ when it comes to getting custody of children always makes me laugh, and not in a ‘haha that’s funny’ way. My ex had bullied me for years, so when he told me when he wanted to have the kids, I agreed with him and we did what he wanted. This was agreed upon and legitimised in mediation. Later I asked to make some changes, which he agreed to. He has the kids 34% of nights, which is just enough that when we first split up he qualified for a part Family Tax Benefit, and the amount I was eligible for was cut in half. I don’t think that was a coincidence. Also the arrangement made it easy for him to continue his full-time job and impossible for me to work more than 28 hours a week, especially after he banned me from working nights by threatening to take the kids if I left them with a babysitter. Add into this the fact that he had been advancing his career all the time that I had been raising his children, thus made double the hourly rate I was on, and I can tell you that any ‘privilege’ around child-raising arrangements was not mine. Meanwhile I get to consider myself lucky that he actually pays child support…
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February 14, 2016 at 9:26 am
The Arbourist
@jodiethalegend
The situation you described sounds horrible. :/ I’m sorry you had to go through it.
What is also horrible is that your experience isn’t an outlier. Dude privilege doesn’t go away when it comes to family matters.
Of course there is the mandatory patriarchal BS about women being the kind, nurturing, Ur-mothers – but ‘mysteriously’ this doesn’t translate into any actual advantage/power in the male run/dominated legal system.
I Blame The Patriarchy. :(
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