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Dear teacher, principal, music director, barista, checkout clerk, and bookseller:

I think I know how this happened: you probably had a DEI workshop or a colleague or a woke friend or a passionate niece tell you this was a nice thing to do. I even had one of you tell me directly that “this is a small way to create an inclusive and nourishing community by affirming and supporting students of all genders.” So you put on your pronoun badge and added she/her at the end of your email signature. There, you thought, I’m a kind person.

And I sincerely believe that your intentions are good. Somewhere along the line you heard that trans kids commit suicide at high rates. You saw a TV show where a trans character or actor was tragically heroic, misunderstood, and noble. You saw a soft-focus ad campaign about a little trans girl who just wants to play sports with the girls. Aw. You’ve probably got a student, family member, or neighbor kid who declared they are trans and is screaming things like “trans rights are human rights” and clearly distressed. Seriously, if adding a pronoun statement to your email signature somehow helps those unhappy kids, what kind of cruel brute wouldn’t do it?

So I get it; you think your pronoun introduction, email signature, video conference name, and badge signal that you’re nice and inclusive. But actually, they show that you’re okay with sterilizing autistic kids.

What? Huh? How?

I’ll take this slowly, so pay attention. When you add a pronoun declaration, you are saying that:

1) Despite any scientific evidence, I believe in the idea of gender identities. There is no science that shows that people have an innate sense or feeling of “gender.” No brain scan. No blood test. Of course not: “Gender identity” is a feeling, an idea about whether and how much you feel like a female or a male. [Do you feel like a person with AB blood? Or a person who is 5’ 9”? No – you just are.] But yes, I think people feel female or male or neither. Or both.

2) Some people have gender feelings that are different from their physical bodies, and that those gender feelings trump their bodies’ physical sex. How they feel matters more than their body – and society should label/categorize them as that feeling desires. No longer do pronouns refer to someone’s actual sexed body (an observable and incontrovertible fact in 99.999% of cases and testable in the other ones), but to how they feel (an unobserved and unmeasurable idea). I’m okay with changing the meanings of pronouns – because feelings are more important than reality.

[Note: realistically, calling someone by the opposite gender pronoun (or they/them) doesn’t actually move them into the social category of the opposite sex or some third sex—not for any useful purposes like friendships, dating, athletics, or sexual partners. It just puts them into the category of “too sensitive to face reality / treat with kid gloves / they are mentally unstable and possibly suicidal / they might have a weird kink fetish / they’re probably super-obsessed about one aspect of their life and kinda boring and weird.” Believe me, outside of high school and the anthropology and gender studies departments, no one sees an opposite sex/they/them pronoun signature line and thinks “Oooh—now that person is magical and extra interesting. I can’t wait to get to know/hire/date that person.” We think “next.”]

3) If feelings matter more than facts, then transforming the sexed body to better match the gender feelings makes the best sense. Taking puberty-blockers and/or cross-sex hormones or undergoing surgery to stimulate the appearance of sex characteristics like breasts or facial hair or penises makes sense. Trying to question, alter, or evolve feelings or promote self-acceptance of the physical body isn’t worth trying or exploring.

4) Even though transitioning the body from one sex to the other isn’t actually possible, I’m okay with people doing that. No amount of cross-sex hormones will transform a penis into a vagina, nor vice versa. Surgery can remove breasts, labia, clitorises, vaginas, ovaries, fallopian tubes, uteruses, penises, scrotums, and testes. Plastic surgery can try to fashion pseudo penises from chunks of thigh or arm tissue, or pseudo vaginas from inverted penises or lengths of colon, but these are not functional organs. Even the most sophisticated surgeries and drugs cannot transform the DNA coded into every cell of your body. Sex can never change, but I’m okay with acting on fantasies and feelings.

5) Even though attempting to transition the body from one sex to the other isn’t healthy and increases suicide, I’m okay with people doing that. Puberty blockers and cross-sex hormones and surgeries are bad for bodies. Really bad. Brain polyps, anorgasmia, infertility, osteoporosis, Alzheimer’s, cardiac damage, diabetes, infections, death. Scientists and doctors know these approaches are bad. Sometimes, a patient reports the results were worth it, but we know that transitioning actually increases rates of suicide. I’m okay with those negative consequences, because feelings are more important than reality.

6) Despite the fact that historically, most of children (typically boys) with gender dysphoria outgrew it and became gay or bisexual men, I think we should re-enforce these young boys’ false belief they are actually girls by using preferred pronouns. Remember, feelings are more important than reality. Reinforcing this idea that a boy is a girl can lead them to social and medical transition, but that’s not my problem. I’m okay with sterilizing gay boys.

7) Despite the fact that the present wave of teenagers with gender dysphoria has disproportionately high rates of social isolation, anxiety, depression, ADHD, and autism, I’m okay with permanently damaging and sterilizing them, too. Even though typical teenagers can’t be trusted to vote, smoke cigarettes, or drive a rental car, I believe these socially isolated, anxious, depressed, ADHD and autistic teenagers are somehow extra-ordinarily mature, and I’m okay with them making these sorts of life-altering decisions based on their feelings. Because feelings trump the body.

8) So yes, I’m totally okay with the sterilization of autistic children—really, any kind of people at all. Giving people time to mature and grow just isn’t wise, right? Since we all know feelings trump reality. Go ahead. No skin off my nose.

Well, thanks for clarifying where you stand. You’re so kind.

—Chapters—

(0:00) – Coming Up

(0:57) – Intro

(2:22) – Writing “Trans”

(9:46) – Women and Biological Reality

(19:50) – Age Solidarity Among Women

(24:57) – Narcissism, a Key Contributor

(34:53) – Fetishes & the Unbalanced Psyche

(36:57) – Breaking the Fantasy

(42:25) – Freud & the Oedipal Complex

(48:11) – Context Defines Your Identity

(55:45) – Transhumanist “Meat Lego”

(59:40) – The Depth of the Battle, the Death of God

(1:05:54) – Lying to Children, Ellen Page

(1:10:27) – The Social Pillory

When talking with many of the gender-religious and their supporters the tendency by them to deploy over the top statements seems to be irresistible. The actual reason why transacativists use hyperbolic language is quite quotidian. They do not have a fact based argument to fall back on. It is ‘just how I feel’ and ‘how dare you hurt my feelings by not believing the exact same as me’ all the way down. Emotional appeals and coercion are the only cards they have to play – they do it well – but people who care about facts and people other than themselves tend to look a the bigger picture.

Dr.Jane Clare Jones is one of those who quickly cuts to the quick of the hyperbole. So were you looking for an answer to the “you’re erasing my existence ploy” – here it be.

Peter Boghossian can’t get left leaning student groups to sponsor his presentations. His crime? Asking people how they came to the position they hold and would they change their mind?

This is the sort of activity that should be commonplace in our higher institutions. It isn’t, and you should be worried about that.

Children are a precious resource. We should not be practicing ineffective and harmful treatments on them.

Shops selling meat and deli products are at the forefront of spaces that “need to be safe”  in Canmore for gender magic individuals.

“A food company in Canmore is facing a backlash over a transphobic response to a donation request by Canmore Pride.

As the Canmore Pride Society prepares for its second annual celebration, the volunteer-led group has been reaching out to local businesses to ask for sponsorships. The group’s co-chair, K Kealey, sent an email to Valbella Gourmet Foods to ask for donations for an upcoming BBQ and was shocked by the response.

The response was signed by Jeff von Rotz, whose email signature identified him as the deli’s owner. He started the email with a dig at Kealey’s single-letter name, then continued with transphobic and homophobic remarks.

“I’m sorry to say but you could not pay me to sponsor anything to do with child grooming tranny’s [sic].

“Please keep these sick people away from the children of this community, you should be disgusted with yourselves.”

He added that he’s sure there would be “some woke organization mentally ill enough to help” the group with their event, but it “isn’t Valbella’s.”

We should be clear here.  This is not the most appropriate way to respond to a request for a donation from a special interest group.  It isn’t a professional business appropriate response and should not have been sent out.  A simple “no thank you” would have been entirely sufficient.

People feel strongly about issues and those emotions and impulses should not automatically be transferred to electronic media where they live forever.  Stuff happens.  However, lets take a look at the response.

“Kealey, who identifies by the pronouns they and them, said they were disappointed and hurt by the response.”

Welcome to society.  The expectation not be offended and have your feelings hurt is an unrealistic and unhealthy belief.

“I shared the email because I was concerned about the safety of my own community and, as a trans person myself, I was thinking I didn’t want to go into that place or if I would be safe there anymore,” Kealey said Wednesday.

The bad man said words?  And you are that fragile that you’d feel “unsafe” entering the store?  This is classic vulnerable narcissism in action – pity me and (or I will make you pay for!) my bruised feelings…

Of course, if it ended there it would have been fine. Perhaps an adult conversation could have taken place and an apology elicited for the rude behaviour.

Ooooooooooor, we can take it the media and start a shit-show.

“We think we deserve spaces where people can go and be safe, and not only be safe but be fully accepted,” they said. “There are so many great people out here and they deserve better and deserve to exist in spaces as who they are and feel embraced for that.”

No one in society gets to be fully accepted automatically.  And we really need to connect the dots between a heated email about donations and then somehow not being able to buy deli meat safely?  It doesn’t compute outside the realm of those who are always on the lookout to be offended.

  “Chantal von Rotz — Jeff’s sister and the daughter of the company’s founders, Walter and Leonie von Rotz — said in a post online Tuesday that Jeff has been removed from the company and its operations.

“The owners and leadership of Valbella Gourmet Foods express its deepest apologies to the Canmore LGBTQ+ community for an intolerant email that was sent (Tuesday) by one of our former team members,” said Chantal.

She said his words do not reflect the opinions of the Valbella team and that the company strives to make its workplace inclusive.”

Whoops – there is the damage control in action.  The knee must be bent fully to the needs of fragile people with access to media and social media.

“We hope to soon be able to work with experts from the LGBTQ+ community to implement new training and education,” said Chantal. “Our priority is regaining the community’s trust.”

Valbella Gourmet Foods was founded by the von Rotzes in 1978 and has grown into a 40,000-square-foot production plant.

Chantal said a thorough review of internal policies is underway and the company will implement new equity, diversity and inclusion policy to make sure employees feel supported”

It won’t be enough.  It is never enough.  If the vulnerable narcissists want you cancelled, you will be cancelled.  Better to stick up for your beliefs and tell them to go to hell, at least you will have your character and integrity intact.

  “Several businesses that worked with Valbella Gourmet Foods have posted statements that they will no longer be doing business with the Canmore deli. The page on Valbella’s website listing its retail partners has been removed.

The Banff Centre for Arts and Creativity said in a statement that it will remove all Valbella products from company operations and has ceased all business relations.

The Fairmont Hotels at Jasper Park Lodge and Banff Springs said it will no longer work with or purchase from Valbella. Blush Lane and SPUD posted statements saying they have discontinued their relationships with Valbella.

Dan Berezan, founder and CEO of online Alberta farmer’s market Cultivatr, said in a statement his company has immediately suspended selling products from Valbella. The Canmore business was a vendor on the website.

“At Cultivatr, we have no place for hate of any kind,” said Berezan. “We have received tremendous support from the LBGTQIA2S+ community and we want you to know that we appreciate you and we support you right back.”

ACME Meat Market promised to halt future purchases of Valbella products and will donate any existing stock. And Monki Bistro said it will remove all Valbella products from the restaurant.

Canmore Folk Festival said it has returned a donation from Valbella in full.

After taking a day to determine how to respond, Sunterra Market released a statement Wednesday that it will also cease all business relationships with Valbella.

“Some may see the time we took to have these conversations as a concern. Please know this was done solely to consider all those affected by our decisions,” said the market.

“We believe Sunterra’s choice to cut ties with the company will have a significant impact on their 50 team members and their families.”

How did this Woke shit get so deeply embedded in our society?  It is because stepping out of line has drastic real life consequences as illustrated here.  The consequences are completely out of whack for the real offense/harm done.   Do the employee’s at Valbella deserve to have their jobs put in jeopardy because some fired off a poorly worded email?  (No, of course not. But those other companies do think that their virtue signalling is more important than the Valbella employee’s livelihoods.)

Apparently the answer is yes.  This will continue until enough people say no to the bullying and coercion that some factions of the rainbow community seem to wield.  Also, it isn’t helpful that the news media amplifies this sort of hyperbolic sob story that somehow lends credence to the overreaction that started this whole kerfuffle.

So yeah, a terrible email, but does the business deserve to be shut down/lose significant revenue because someone was offended?  Probably not, if you value a reasonably tolerant and reasonably free society.

 

 

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