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[Editor’s Note: A previous version of this essay included citations that did not support the specific claims attached to them. I reviewed the sources, corrected reference details, and revised the text to align with what the evidence can bear.]
Gender ideology, with its audacious claim that biological sex bows to subjective whim, is a wrecking ball smashing through truth, family, and society. It peddles a fiction: that large numbers of individuals are born in the “wrong” bodies, requiring major medical interventions to “fix” what evolution perfected over millennia. When parents of dependent children are egged on to “transition,” the fallout can be severe, not just personal, but societal. This isn’t a debate. It is a destabilizing moral and political project demanding fierce, unflinching resistance
Shattering Children’s Worlds
Children, fragile and tethered to parental stability, are shaken when a parent’s identity shift reorders their world. Hormones, surgeries, or social reinventions don’t just alter a parent. They can fracture a child’s sense of security. Clinical psychologist Dr. Erica Anderson, herself transgender, has warned that we are running something like a “social experiment,” with uncertain long-term outcomes for young people caught up in this cultural moment (Jarvie, 2022).
On the narrower question of children raised by a transgender parent, the available research is limited and mixed. Some studies report generally good child adjustment in their samples while also emphasizing how little broad, long-term evidence exists (Imrie et al., 2020). None of this supports breezy certainty, institutional mandates, or the pretense that complex family changes are automatically cost-free. Prioritizing an adult’s self-actualization over a child’s emotional bedrock isn’t progress. It is a risk we keep rebranding as compassion.
Demolishing Family Bonds
Families, the crucible of human connection, can disintegrate under this ideology’s corrosive weight. A parent’s transition can place marriages under severe strain, forcing spouses and children into abrupt renegotiations of roles, expectations, and loyalties. The empirical literature on romantic relationship satisfaction and stability in transgender contexts is still developing, but systematic review work suggests relationship outcomes are heterogeneous and shaped by multiple stressors, not a simple morality play where affirmation guarantees flourishing (Marshall et al., 2020). The ideology’s fetish for individual affirmation over collective duty can rip apart interdependence, leaving children caught in loyalty conflicts and spouses facing unrecognizable partners. This isn’t liberation. It is a familial debacle, a slow-motion implosion of the bonds that sustain us.
Corroding Institutions
Society’s institutions, schools, hospitals, public health bodies, buckle as gender ideology colonizes them. The Cass Review (2024), a major UK review of pediatric gender services, concluded that parts of the evidence base for medical pathways are weak and that clinical practice had developed without the level of rigor, consistency, and safeguarding expected in other areas of pediatric healthcare (Cass Review, 2024). When medicine and education forsake skepticism and evidence for dogma and compliance rituals, public trust corrodes. This isn’t inclusion. It is an institutional betrayal of the empirical foundations that anchor civilization.
Defying Biological Reality
Biologically, gender ideology is utter bollocks. Human sexual dimorphism is a core feature of our species. Claims of mass “body mismatches” are not supported by the basic reality of sex. Even intersex conditions are rare, and prevalence estimates vary sharply depending on definitions. Sax (2002), using a strict definition, argues for a very low prevalence, far below the inflated figures often implied in popular debate (Sax, 2002). If pervasive dysphoria were a simple, innate biological fate on the scale now suggested, humanity would have joined Neanderthals and Denisovans in the evolutionary dustbin. Yet, we’re told the most advanced species can’t navigate puberty without turning healthy bodies into medical projects. Absurd. This ideology spits on evolutionary resilience, peddling a delusion that demands invasive fixes for psychological distress. The stakes are civilizational: either we reclaim material reality, or we watch society unravel, child by child, family by family, institution by institution.
References
- Cass Review. (2024). Independent Review of Gender Identity Services for Children and Young People: Final Report.
https://cass.independent-review.uk/home/publications/final-report/ - Imrie, S., et al. (2020). Children with Trans Parents: Parent–Child Relationship Quality and Psychological Well-being. (Open access)
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8372299/ - Jarvie, J. (2022, April 12). A transgender psychologist has helped hundreds of teens transition. But rising numbers have her concerned. Los Angeles Times.
https://www.latimes.com/world-nation/story/2022-04-12/a-transgender-psychologist-reckons-with-how-to-support-a-new-generation-of-trans-teens - Marshall, E., et al. (2020). The quality and satisfaction of romantic relationships in transgender people: A systematic review. (Open access)
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8726697/ - Sax, L. (2002). How common is intersex? A response to Anne Fausto-Sterling. The Journal of Sex Research, 39(3), 174–178. (PubMed record)
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/12476264/
Domestic violence. Not acceptable, not ever.
“TW DOMESTIC ABUSE ——When [an abusive man] tells me that he became abusive because he lost control of himself, I ask him why he didn’t do something even worse. For example, I might say, “You called her a fucking whore, you grabbed the phone out of her hand and whipped it across the room, and then you gave her a shove and she fell down. There she was at your feet where it would have been easy to kick her in the head. Now, you have just finished telling me that you were ‘totally out of control’ at that time, but you didn’t kick her. What stopped you?” And the client can always give me a reason. Here are some common explanations:“I wouldn’t want to cause her a serious injury.”
“I realized one of the children was watching.”
“I was afraid someone would call the police.”
“I could kill her if I did that.”
“The fight was getting loud, and I was afraid the neighbors would hear.”And the most frequent response of all:“Jesus, I wouldn’t do that. I would never do something like that to her.”
The response that I almost never heard — I remember hearing it twice in the fifteen years — was: “I don’t know.”
These ready answers strip the cover off of my clients’ loss of control excuse. While a man is on an abusive rampage, verbally or physically, his mind maintains awareness of a number of questions: “Am I doing something that other people could find out about, so it could make me look bad? Am I doing anything that could get me in legal trouble? Could I get hurt myself? Am I doing anything that I myself consider too cruel, gross, or violent?”
A critical insight seeped into me from working with my first few dozen clients: An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unacceptable. He may hide what he does because he thinks other people would disagree with it, but he feels justified inside. I can’t remember a client ever having said to me: “There’s no way I can defend what I did. It was just totally wrong.” He invariably has a reason that he considers good enough. In short, an abuser’s core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong.
I sometimes ask my clients the following question: “How many of you have ever felt angry enough at youer mother to get the urge to call her a bitch?” Typically half or more of the group members raise their hands. Then I ask, “How many of you have ever acted on that urge?” All the hands fly down, and the men cast appalled gazes on me, as if I had just asked whether they sell drugs outside elementary schools. So then I ask, “Well, why haven’t you?” The same answer shoots out from the men each time I do this exercise: “But you can’t treat your mother like that, no matter how angry you are! You just don’t do that!”
The unspoken remainder of this statement, which we can fill in for my clients, is: “But you can treat your wife or girlfriend like that, as long as you have a good enough reason. That’s different.” In other words, the abuser’s problem lies above all in his belief that controlling or abusing his female partner is justifiable….”
—Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men
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