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Find your helmets and the hazmat suits dear readers, we’re going into the high back-country of mendacity, where the stupid is rugged and the ignorance is thick. Yes, we’re going to go visit our dear friend Matthew again because it is so rare to find such a deluded ball of procacity and self-delusion all in the same person.
But before we go on our merry gasconade we should warn the uninitiated – Matthew is a rebarbative hunk of misogynistic shit, his hatred of women runs astonishingly deep and his words can be quite shocking for the uninitiated. Consider yourself warned. Let loose the RPOJ from its sacred scabbard and into the ferocious maw of puerile thought-fap we go.
“Even a Slut Doesn’t Deserve to be Raped”
Oh wow. Even the title is filled to the brim with malevolent idiocy. Pro-tip Matthew – women are people not objects for your wang-prophecies.
Modern “feminists” have this controversial idea known as “rape culture” that’s been bothering me for a while.
There is nothing controversial about rape culture fart-knocker. What merits attention is the lengths half-wits like yourself will go to deny the reality of what is happening to women in our culture, as I’m pretty sure this is the direction you’re going to take.
I did a little research to try to figure out what exactly they mean by it, and I was disturbed by what a bleak and one-sided picture they paint.
Oh really? I’m curious as to the depths of your research, as to date it has been a indisputably shoddy train wreck of fail. But, the optimist in me says maybe ‘this’ time you won’t bollocks things up, so let’s investigate what you’ve uncovered.
What some of them seem to mean when they say “rape culture” is:
- that women and girls who dress in tight/revealing/slutty clothing are supposedly criticized (“slut shamed”) for being slutty
*Looks at title of post – looks at this sentence* – You have not a fucking clue what you’re talking about.
- that if these women or girls ever do get raped then they will supposedly also be blamed (“victim blamed”) for it
Wow – still no clue. Par for the course for Matthew whose hyper-skeptical glasses have been set to 11 for all these mysterious claims made by feminists.
- that the rapist will supposedly not be blamed at all and will just be allowed to go free
Facts suck don’t they Matthew, especially ones that don’t agree with your fevered view of the world. Understand one thing douche-nugget, most rapists will never spend a day in jail. (Source.)
- that supposedly the key to ending this “culture” of rape is to continue to dress like sluts in order to convince people that this is just a normal way for women and girls to behave
Err..no. The key to ending rape culture is for men (and the societal norms that enable them) to stop raping women. This is not rocket science, Skippy.
But here are the problems I have with this, and it falls on both sides of the issue.
A fair and balanced analysis I’m sure….*facepalm*
First, I hate women and girls who dress in tight/revealing clothing, and I don’t mind that they are criticized (“shamed”), because they are creating a public nuisance. Showing off your body causes sexual frustration.
Important notes from your boner are irrelevant to how women look and dress. They are not responsible for your man feelings, not now, not ever. Try and act like a fracking grown up for once in your life.
This is biological sexual attraction, and if you don’t understand that then you are either a sex addict who has been exposed to sex so much that you’ve become desensitized to it or some asexual person who had almost no sex drive to begin with.
Ah, so why aren’t you out killing some meat for your clan in the jungle? What is it with dudes trying to use biology to justify their shitty behaviour? We live in this thing called society and is marginally civilized if you can’t handle that shit, then leave.
To what I think is a normal male, it’s like an itch that needs to be scratched.
Funny how your idea of “normal” coincides with what you believe to be true. Almost like it is a self-reinforcing cycle of ignorance and stupidity. You need to meet these guys – Dunning-Kruger – you’d get along smashingly.
Sexual frustration in turn can tempt a person to engage in unhealthy and desperate behavior such as impulsive forms of consensual sex, porn addiction, or solicitation of prostitution. Most of this is legal in some sense or another (depending on your geography), but it’s all arguably a form of humiliation, and tight/revealing clothing indirectly promotes it. In other words, women and girls who dress like sluts indirectly harm other women.
Wow how about you take a step out of the cradle and claim your agency instead of blaming women for all of your problems.
Second, there’s the issue of blame. I actually believe that, objectively, tight/revealing clothing will increase a woman’s chances of being raped. It’s simply a combination of biological sexual attraction and self-control that some men lack. “Feminists” who advise women and girls to dress as slutty as they want and not care what people think are really doing them a disservice and endangering them. I am not “blaming” victims, but I am trying to give them some advice.
Wow, thanks but no thanks. Women hear shit like this everyday – and it is shit – because it places the onus on them for being raped as opposed to those who are responsible – the fucking rapists. Of course, blaming the victim is nothing new under the sun.
Finally, there’s the heart of the issue, the practical aspect of “blame”, which is how to deal with rapists. I actually don’t think even a slutty woman deserves to be raped. Rape is way too harsh a punishment for any behavior, no matter how foolish or irresponsible.
Redemption? No cookie for you! Saying rape is bad at the end an article that blames women for being raped wins you nothing but scorn and contempt.
No one deserves to be traumatized like that, which is why the rapist must still be punished. If the rapist were not punished, then he or future rapists might be encouraged to try to repeat the same horrible act (which I just said should not be allowed to happen to anyone regardless of how reckless her behavior was).
How magnanimous of you.
So, I say: (a) punish the perpetrator, (b) advise the victim to be more careful in the future, and (c) continue to criticize women and girls who dress or act sluttishly because this last point is really a separate problem.
One out of three is still a fail.
I’m not on the side of “rape culture”, but I’m not on the side of “feminism” either. I instead choose what I think is a realistic and sensible medium to encourage a more peaceful society.
Oh yah, you and rape culture are bros, dude; let me assure you of that. What you “think” is usually weapons grade bullshite with a heaping side of misogyny that attempts to make women responsible for shitty male behaviour. Let me know when that tune changes; then we can start talking about realistic and sensible.
This post from The Bewilderness explains the low prevalence of false rape accusations.
“Anon asked: Tonight I was speaking with a female coworker about rape culture and how terrifying it is to live with fear of knowing that if I was raped, it’s a high possibility that no one would believe me or take me seriously. She then said that she doesn’t have a problem with that because “most girls lie about being raped”. What would you say in response to that? I’ve heard many people say that but I have no idea how to respond.”
And the response – (TW Rape)
Your female co-worker doesn’t know anything. I hate that she said that.
There is zero benefit to “crying rape”. There was a study out last year, I believe, that cited of all rape accusations, .5% of them were false accusations.
The reason? Because once again, there is zero benefit in doing so. When you claim someone has raped you, what that means is you are about to get dragged through the mud. Every decision you’ve ever made, “relevant” or otherwise will be questioned. You will be called horrific names, so on and so forth.
And that’s why so many women and girls who are raped choose not to come forward. In doing so, they are re-traumatized, and they will likely have nothing to show for it; meaning, no one will believe them, and their loved ones will often turn on them.
Rape is a kind of horror, but the aftermath of it within a rape culture, is another beast all together. xx
That is the way the myth is created.
If you report a rape they don’t believe you because denial is the first response to bad news.
Then they bargain. Maybe it wasn’t really rape because you weren’t beaten half to death by a stranger. Maybe it was just a misunderstanding.
Misdirected anger comes next for you saying such a terrible thing about such a “nice guy” or famous guy or friendly guy. And what were you wearing, you probably were asking for it.
By now the rape victim has usually been silenced. They sure as hell won’t be talking to you about it ever again.
So it must have been a lie they told for sympathy, or meanness, or attention, or any one of the many reasons for lying that we ascribe to victims of abuse for having the unmitigated gall to speak of the abuse they suffer.
So they repeat the myth that most girls lie and that perpetuates the myth that most girls lie.
It never seems to occur to them that most boys lie, most men lie, most rapists lie.
“Two weeks ago a man in France was arrested for raping his daughter. She’d gone to her school counselor and then the police, but they needed “hard evidence.” So, she videotaped her next assault. Her father was eventually arrested. His attorney explained, “There was a period when he was unemployed and in the middle of a divorce. He insists that these acts did not stretch back further than three or four months. His daughter says longer. But everyone should be very careful in what they say.” Because, really, even despite her seeking help, her testimony, her bravery in setting up a webcam to film her father raping her, you really can’t believe what the girl says, can you?
Everyone “knows” this. Even children.
Three years ago, in fly-on-the-wall fashion of parent drivers everywhere, I listened while a 14-year-old girl in the back seat of my car described how angry she was that her parents had stopped allowing her to walk home alone just because a girl in her neighborhood “claimed she was raped.” When I asked her if there was any reason to think the girl’s story was not true, she said, “Girls lie about rape all the time.” She didn’t know the person, she just assumed she was lying…
No one says, “You can’t trust women,” but distrust them we do. College students surveyed revealed that they think up to 50% of their female peers lie when they accuse someone of rape, despite wide-scale evidence and multi-country studies that show the incident of false rape reports to be in the 2%-8% range, pretty much the same as false claims for other crimes. As late as 2003, people jokingly (wink, wink) referred to Philadelphia’s sex crimes unit as “the lying bitch unit.” If an 11-year-old girl told an adult that her father took out a Craigslist ad to find someone to beat and rape her while he watched, as recently actually occurred, what do you think the response would be? Would she need to provide a videotape after the fact?
It goes way beyond sexual assault as well. That’s just the most likely and obvious demonstration of “women are born to lie” myths. Women’s credibility is questioned in the workplace, in courts, by law enforcement, in doctors’ offices, and in our political system. People don’t trust women to be bosses, or pilots, or employees. Pakistan’s controversial Hudood Ordinance still requires a female rape victim to procure four male witnesses to her rape or risk prosecution for adultery. In August, a survey of managers in the United States revealed that they overwhelmingly distrust women who request flextime. It’s notable, of course, that women are trusted to be mothers—the largest pool of undervalued, unpaid, economically crucial labor.
— Soraya Chemaly, How We Teach Our Kids That Women Are Liars ”
*ed. Removed second copy of quotation – Yep, more coffee required.*
Wow, this is still a thing. Drunk women do not deserve to get raped. Ever.
From i-once-had-a-guy-tell-me:
I am NOT saying that all cases could have been avoided but certain ones yes. My thing is that girls that go to parties and get drunk don’t blame themselves a tiny bit. That’s what I was specifying. If you go to a party without people you trust then you really are to blame.
And if I walk outside alone with a wallet in my pocket, and I get mugged, I’m to blame. And if I work nights at a convenience store and it gets robbed, I’m to blame. And if I drive a car on the highway and someone else is on their cell phone and they hit my car, I’m to blame. And if I trust that the chicken sandwich I bought at a fast food chain is safe to eat and I get food poisoning, I’m to blame. And if I go outside of my home and am attacked by an angry, escaped dog off its leash, I am to blame. Sound about right?
The penalty for getting drunk should be a hangover.
Not rape.
The first law of misogyny is that women are responsible for what men do to them.
Men can be better than this. Change your thoughts, change the culture around *you*; take your spoons, speak up, and when you see the rape enabling BS, make a difference.
Easy pickings today as the comic book genre is not exactly a bastion of feminism. That being said, it just behooves me not to share the head slapping stupidity of the people who designed an open contest to see if they have “the chops” to join the DC team. Let’s just let the vile bags of douche speak for themselves:
Harley Quinn. One page. Published work. Breaking into comics was never this fun. ;)
— Jim & Dan
Here’s how to enter:
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Read the rules & regulations listed below to confirm that you are eligible to enter DC Entertainment’s Open Talent Search and agree to the terms and conditions.
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Read the following script page and give us your original artistic interpretation of what those four panels should look like on a single page:
PAGE 15
4 panels
PANEL 1
Harley is on top of a building, holding a large DETACHED cellphone tower in her hands as lightning is striking just about everywhere except her tower. She is looking at us like she cannot believe what she is doing. Beside herself. Not happy.PANEL 2
Harley is sitting in an alligator pond, on a little island with a suit of raw chicken on, rolling her eyes like once again, she cannot believe where she has found herself. We see the alligators ignoring her.PANEL 3
Harley is sitting in an open whale mouth, tickling the inside of the whale’s mouth with a feather. She is ecstatic and happy, like this is the most fun ever.PANEL 4
Harley sitting naked in a bathtub with toasters, blow dryers, blenders, appliances all dangling above the bathtub and she has a cord that will release them all. We are watching the moment before the inevitable death. Her expression is one of “oh well, guess that’s it for me” and she has resigned herself to the moment that is going to happen.
Ah. Naked-happy with suicide is a okay – Let’s pause a second and set our phasers to “juxtaposition” and take a look at this snippet from the Atlantic Wire.
“Batwoman may be a superhero, but her powers apparently don’t extend to being able to marry someone of the same sex. The heroine, a Jewish lesbian, was denied a same-sex marriage by the execs of DC Comics, leading to a resignation of two Batwoman authors.
“We’re both heartbroken over leaving, but we feel strongly that you all deserve stories that push the character and the series forward. We can’t reliably do our best work if our plans are scrapped at the last minute, so we’re stepping aside,” wrote Batwoman co-authors J.H. Williams and W. Haden Blackman on their website late Wednesday night, explaining that DC Comics had squashed many of their editorial choices and “most crushingly, prohibited from ever showing Kate [Batwoman] and Maggie actually getting married.”
In addition, Williams tweeted:
@andykhouri Not wanting to be inflammatory, only factual- We fought to get them engaged, but were told emphatically no marriage can result.
— J.H. Williams III (@JHWilliamsIII) September 5, 2013″
Okay, so to summarize.
No problems!
But this, is not.
Women wanting to affirm their love? This shite is toxic and obviously not fit for publication.
Yah. So the abhorrent usual of objectification, degradation and violence against women is green lighted with an open invite for artists to “join the team” no less.
But…
A same sex marriage? Obviously completely off the fucking chain and gets shut down by DC in a heartbeat.
A double of patriarchal bullshite, with a heaping side of misogyny seems to be DC’s answer to the problem of rape culture in society, because pushing against toxic societal norms an artistic medium is hard.
Extra bonus fail for DC – September is Suicide Prevention month…
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