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    You know what privilege is?  It’s not having to expend the mental energy to do certain things or even having to think about doing certain thing.   Another fun fact your perceptions and reactions are yours and yours alone and as a general rule of thumb should *not* be generalized other people.   Let’s take a look at just one small etymology of one of the most simplest and most common words in the English language.  The word “No”.

“Women are socialized to make men feel good. We’re socialized to “let you down easy.” We’re not socialized to say a clear and direct “no.” We’re socialized to speak in hints and boost egos and let people save face. People who don’t respect the social contract (rapists, predators, assholes, pickup artists) are good at taking advantage of this. “No” is something we have to learn. “No” is something we have to earn. In fact, I’d argue that the ability to just say “no” to something, without further comment, apology, explanation, guilt, or thinking about it is one of the great rites of passage in growing up, and when you start saying it and saying it regularly the world often pushes back. And calls you names.”

— The art of “no.” « CaptainAwkward.com

If there is so much that goes into saying “no” for women, does it not follow that other tasks and routines in society are also significantly different for women as well.  Yes Dudes, I’m talking to you – take half a minute and think about what your life might be like if saying “NO” is this much of fucking big deal.

Now dear Equalists and Humanists tell me another frakking story about how we share a “common experience” in society and how your prescriptions are going to fix the patriarchal bullshit that pervades our culture.  This idea of a completely similar shared experience needs to die a quick and painful death because it erases the experiences of one gender and invalidates attempts to fix and modify the sexist and patriarchal fabric of our society.