The year is 2015. In this age the availability of information has never been greater – and yet, the abuse that is religious teaching, is regularly foisted on children across the globe. One would think that in this information age a rational parental-agent would attempt to look for the best way to transmit the necessary cultural values to children.
I postulate this cultural transmission should involve the following –
1. The formulation of strong emotional and social attachments with immediate and extended family.
- Realizing that nothing else works without strong attachments to parents/caregivers
- Working on the social bonds that strengthen the individual and the community as a whole.
- Realizing and respecting the common goals and aspirations of everyone in similar situations – The requirements of shelter, food, security.
2. Ethical guidelines based an empathetic understanding of the needs and feelings of others – key questions would include:
- Would I like this (action, situation, circumstances et cetera)to happen to me?
- Would I like it if this person acted like that toward me?
- If everyone did what I was doing would the world/my community be a better or worse place?
3. Understanding and exploring the world would be a fact based experience.
- Reading
- Listening and asking questions of elders to better understand their experience and to learn from their accumulated knowledge
- Engaging with the world via the arts – Music, Visual Arts, Writing, Poetry – etc.
Hmm, and there I go thinking that I had appropriately delimited my topic. Grrrr… The point is that, even with this small cross-section of cultural transmission, there is no need to fall back on religious teachings/ideology that have no basis in fact.
We should not have to lie to children to get them to be good human beings. Raising children within the secular bounds of an attached caring family unit is possible and a desirable societal outcome. Children should be raised without the twin detriments to healthy maturation: religious guilt and fear. Guilt and fear stunt the growth of curiosity and more importantly, the learning of empathetic ethical behaviour.
So, if we can raise good human beings without all the toxic religious mumbo-jumbo why do so many people choose to do so anyways?




5 comments
July 26, 2015 at 8:50 am
john zande
Arb, this is brilliant! Truly. Those three benchmarks should be taught in school as principles; ideals we should live up to and employ to examine reality against our actions.
Seriously, you should send this a Humanist org for full publication. If we’re going to survive this adventure, as a species, we have to start getting our thoughts down into workable solutions and methods for living. What you’ve written, Arb, is a cornerstone of this endeavour.
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July 26, 2015 at 8:59 am
The Arbourist
@JZ
Thank you John.
I really dislike the post though, :) I wrote myself into a corner on this one and have been trying to edit myself out it for awhile now.
It’s not working. I think I’ll sleep on it and try again.
Was there a specific site you had in mind? After editing, I’ll give submitting the piece a shot.
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July 27, 2015 at 10:51 am
VR Kaine
Agreed. Anything beyond this list should be taught/discussed at home – ONLY, however, after a parent/parents have proven (by a test?!) that they are mentally and emotionally capable of supporting the three things you’ve mentioned above?
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July 27, 2015 at 11:48 am
The Arbourist
@Vern
People would cheat on the test. :)
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July 27, 2015 at 11:59 am
VR Kaine
True. Oh well – it’s an “in another world” thing anyways, so dare to dream, right? ;)
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