I like the pull quote from the article, but the much of what Happonen asserts is quite contentious. Read the full article on The Feminist Current. This is sort of my hope for the New Year – not the abandoment of psychology persay – but women coming together and organizing against the structures in society that oppress them. The first step, as in any revolution, is to meet and talk with people who share your oppression and realize that you are not alone in the struggle against it.
“Ironically, it is often a mental block that hinders so many young women from being effective feminists. But that block is not anxiety, depression, or stress — rather, it is the idea that our emotions and problems are personal, and to be overcome on our own. We have to let go of the idea that the wrong is with us, and not with the world. We have to reach out and organize in real life, help each other, be supportive and understanding, listening and empathetic, tolerant and kind, but also firm and truthful. We must understand that we are all hurt, frustrated, and angry — and that this is not something we have to deal with alone.
I urge young feminists who feel powerless and frustrated to meet each other in real life. Look for established feminist groups in your city or area to join, women’s shelters to volunteer in, reading circles, book clubs, self-defence classes — and if you can’t find any, start your own group. Be each other’s support network and strength, show up to rallies and demonstrations in groups; make signs, slogans, stickers, and pamphlets to distribute together; organize activities and protests. I strongly encourage having ties to older women, in order to learn from their experience and knowledge, though it is equally important to act independently as a new generation of feminists and form our own networks. I was able to find friends and eventually form a feminist organization, aimed at facilitating women-separatist spaces, through radical feminist forums on Facebook and blogs on Tumblr. Dare to take the next step and meet up in real life. Join the organizations and groups you’ve been eyeing forever. Push yourself to go out and meet new women.
Our goals should not be self-empowerment or self-improvement, but the liberation of womankind.”
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December 29, 2017 at 2:13 am
Meg
I’ve been a feminist for years and support is never something I could count on finding. More often than not I find myself doing the supporting or doing the intellectual heavy lifting for misogynist women who could care less if I drop dead tomorrow.
If this means that I’ll be used as a crutch when I get older, count me out.
That’s not even possible. It is not possible politically or logistically. There are 3.75 billion males on the planet. Aside from building small enclaves like communes or nunneries, how in the world can “we” liberate ourselves from this many men?
Expecting this to happen and for women to somehow accomplish it while being systematically denied even the most basic of human rights is just… I don’t know. I don’t even know how to describe it. Like, we don’t even have constitutional protection in America. Every day is a struggle against being punished for merely existing. But somehow, I’m supposed to free myself and free other women, and this is assuming that other women want to be free and aren’t misogynists themselves.
It’s true there’s a lot wrong with the world. However many feminists themselves have a lot of unchecked internalized misogyny they need to address too. To pretend that any one of us has escaped the wrongness of this world unchanged and unscathed is reality denying.
There is no way to effectively organize anything when feminists themselves refuse to stop treating other women like it’s our responsibility to pick up the slack where men can’t be bothered. If “we” cannot do that one simple thing then there is no point.
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