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If you missed out of what Rape Culture is, I suggest you go back and look at yesterdays post. Today, lets enumerate a small sample of what is going on in our society. Specifically, lets look at some of posts from the tumblr “I Once Had A Guy Tell Me...” Liberal White Dudes I thought I would provide some evidence that your experiences are NOT some sort of platonic baseline that everyone shares. It is a touch different for others: (be aware these posts contain triggering material about rape, violence against women and sexual abuse)
[TW: Rape]
I once had a guy (friend, artistic collaborator) tell me, after “snuggling during a movie” turned into him holding me down with his forearm across the back of my neck while I nearly suffocated and he raped me so roughly it dislocated my lower back, that *I* had actually raped *him* — since I had known he was too drunk to stop himself from ‘fucking’ me. He considered himself a progressive and knew I was only interested in women; also, I had done nothing except lean my head against his shoulder.
(submitted by paleotrees)
[TW: Sexual Abuse]
I once had a guy tell me not to tell my mom he was trying to see me naked. Then my counselor (male) told me what my stepdad did was just human nature and I should forgive him.
(submitted by sarahlikescatsandcigarettes)
I once had a guy grab my stomach at a party, shake it in front of everyone in the room, then loudly chastise me for not eating healthy & working out so I could “be more attractive”.
(submitted by frostbiiite)
[TW: Rape]
I once overheard two middle aged men at a coffeeshop talk about how it’s teenage girls own faults that they get raped and sexually harrassed because they all post flattering selfies on facebook. “They’re trying to look so sexy, well what do they expect that gets you”
(submitted by anonymous)
[TW Abuse]
A guy once told me that he only hits me when he’s angry, and that I need only not piss to him off, and he will never hit me again. He’s my husband, and he tells me it’s my fault.
(submitted by anonymous)
Mod note* –
It is NOT your fault. Your husband has NO RIGHT to hit you, or hurt you in any way. Please seek help – YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS.
[TW Rape]
I once had a guy tell me that I should stop complaining about the media coverage of the Steubenville Rape Case because “at least rape gets national attention,” and “violent crimes in which men are victimized are completely ignored.”
(submitted by bibulous)
[TW-rape]
My ex-boyfriend at the time told me, “This is why I can’t drink around you,” after I woke up to him inside of me and begged/fought him to stop. He only stopped to throw up, fall down, and pass out unconcious half way through.
(submitted by anonymous)
The tumblr goes on and… this is shameful commentary on so called Civilized Western Society.
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