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If you missed out of what Rape Culture is, I suggest you go back and look at yesterdays post. Today, lets enumerate a small sample of what is going on in our society. Specifically, lets look at some of posts from the tumblr “I Once Had A Guy Tell Me...” Liberal White Dudes I thought I would provide some evidence that your experiences are NOT some sort of platonic baseline that everyone shares. It is a touch different for others: (be aware these posts contain triggering material about rape, violence against women and sexual abuse)
[TW: Rape]
I once had a guy (friend, artistic collaborator) tell me, after “snuggling during a movie” turned into him holding me down with his forearm across the back of my neck while I nearly suffocated and he raped me so roughly it dislocated my lower back, that *I* had actually raped *him* — since I had known he was too drunk to stop himself from ‘fucking’ me. He considered himself a progressive and knew I was only interested in women; also, I had done nothing except lean my head against his shoulder.
(submitted by paleotrees)
[TW: Sexual Abuse]
I once had a guy tell me not to tell my mom he was trying to see me naked. Then my counselor (male) told me what my stepdad did was just human nature and I should forgive him.
(submitted by sarahlikescatsandcigarettes)
I once had a guy grab my stomach at a party, shake it in front of everyone in the room, then loudly chastise me for not eating healthy & working out so I could “be more attractive”.
(submitted by frostbiiite)
[TW: Rape]
I once overheard two middle aged men at a coffeeshop talk about how it’s teenage girls own faults that they get raped and sexually harrassed because they all post flattering selfies on facebook. “They’re trying to look so sexy, well what do they expect that gets you”
(submitted by anonymous)
[TW Abuse]
A guy once told me that he only hits me when he’s angry, and that I need only not piss to him off, and he will never hit me again. He’s my husband, and he tells me it’s my fault.
(submitted by anonymous)
Mod note* –
It is NOT your fault. Your husband has NO RIGHT to hit you, or hurt you in any way. Please seek help – YOU DO NOT DESERVE THIS.
[TW Rape]
I once had a guy tell me that I should stop complaining about the media coverage of the Steubenville Rape Case because “at least rape gets national attention,” and “violent crimes in which men are victimized are completely ignored.”
(submitted by bibulous)
[TW-rape]
My ex-boyfriend at the time told me, “This is why I can’t drink around you,” after I woke up to him inside of me and begged/fought him to stop. He only stopped to throw up, fall down, and pass out unconcious half way through.
(submitted by anonymous)
The tumblr goes on and… this is shameful commentary on so called Civilized Western Society.
Oh Spring, you wily devil you, it seemed that you’d taken a pass this year. Recently with temperatures in the -20 (C) degree range and 23 centimetres of snow, it seemed like you had pulled up your tent stakes and, along with the warmer weather, taken refuge in the warmer southern climes.
Ah, lovely Edmonton, 3 days before the arrival of spring.
Now, gentle readers, we have improved. The mercury is valiantly fighting to get to a positively toasty 4 degrees centigrade above zero. Witness!
Note: You can see the pavement, massive improvement.
Thus today I switched from these:
These are my ‘stealth’ sandals, they look enough like shoes that I can avoid peoples opprobrium over what they consider to be ‘inappropriate’ footwear for the season.
to (hallelujah!) these:
Woo!
Spring has tentatively arrived in Edmonton. I say tentatively because the forecast calls for a more snow today for tomorrow. Too bad. :) I’ve put the nasty boots and nasty shoe-sies away, and that in my books, is a good day.
I hate to say it folks, but video games have not been improving as of late. Certainly the exceptions being the gratuitous eye candy and special effects, but as far as things that make you sit back and go, “Wow that was fantastic!” have been few and far between. The other thing could be is that I’m just getting older (I started with Atari, that should date me quite nicely) and do not have the time, nor the desire to get good at any particular game. There are just too many other worthwhile things to be doing than gaming.
Reading, practising piano/voice, blogging, attending to chores, walking the dog, socializing with the wife – all come before gaming now. The rich experiences I remember from my younger years are just not happening in this new context. Gaming now rather than something to do, seems like a guilty pleasure of taking time away from what I should be doing.
Let us not be too maudlin about video gaming though. Mystro and I (and a few of my other friends) can occasionally rock League of Legends and Left for Dead, I do take great pleasure in owning face and killing zombies in the name of justice, don’t get me wrong. But the time needed to get good, as in mastering a particular games mechanics, is just too much for me now.
The lack of time is illustrated by the graveyard of games that populate my hard-drive. Fun for awhile but unable to compete for my time to get anywhere past “competently average” level of skill/dedication.
I know I have a few gamers that follow the blog, what do you think? Do we reach a point where we finally outgrow our video games and fully commit to the dowdy reality of adulthood? :)
Finally a great picture of my dog. :) Shadow says “Hi” and is happy to meet all of you.
The move is over. Let the unpacking begin. Thank you, my committed readership, for staying with us here at DWR during the transition to our new home. It has been a wild and hectic couple of weeks. I should be able to commit a little more time to blogging and finding the information I find interesting and sharing it with you. With that in mind I’d like to share and and comment on the recent furor about Tom Mulcair’s comments about the “Dutch Disease” in Canada.
The noise generated by his comments are out of proportion to what his observation was:
“Mulcair claims that “Dutch disease” has hit the country, blaming energy exports from the Alberta oilsands for artificially raising the Canadian dollar and hollowing out the manufacturing industry.
Coined in an article in The Economist in 1977, the concept refers to the adverse economic effects that the discovery of large natural gas fields off of the coast of the Netherlands in the 1960s had on the country’s manufacturing sector.
The theory goes that a boom in a natural resource sector can lead to an appreciation of a country’s real exchange rate. That increase in the dollar value makes exports more expensive, and has an adverse effect on the manufacturing sector by making it less competitive.”
Okay, so it sounds reasonable so far. Our dollar goes up and makes our manufacturing industry less competitive. But what has got the defenders of corporatism all up in arms? Mulcair takes his statement one step further…
“Mulcair said the problem is the government is not enforcing legislation that would include the environmental costs of exploiting natural resources.
“Those statistics with regard to the overall losses of jobs in Canada are irrefutable,” he said this week. “And they are directly related to the fact that we’re not enforcing federal [environmental] legislation.”
Oh snap. How dare you mention that pillaging the land in the hog-wild foo-fur-ah that is Fort McMurray might be anything less than a calm nuanced approach to 
resource management is beyond the pale. Fainting couches were needed *stat* across much of the Canadian media and parliament.
“I am wondering when the leader of the Opposition will apologize to western Canadians for suggesting the strength of the western Canadian economy is a disease on Canada,” Heritage Minister James Moore said in the House of Commons.
“He attacks western Canada, he attacks our energy industry, he attacks all of the West and the great work that is being done by western Canadians to contribute to Canada’s national unity. He should be ashamed of himself,” he said.
Yes, he should be ashamed for trying to keep the government accountable to for environmental legislation that is currently on the books, oh the villainy. The tar sands have gained a love-halo that is growing in magnitude. Speaking out against them is sacrosanct,with reasonable debate being drummed out by “it’s good for the economy!!!1!” and other nonsense.
Good On Mulcair for pointing out some of the problems with the oil-sands vis-a-vis the rest of Canada, the man is doing his job as leader of the Opposition.
What do you get when you cross moving to a new house, getting a new dog and still working fulltime? Yes, sadly you guessed it a light blogging week. Please accept my apologies, but unpacking is eating up all of my time thus the posts this week barring any works from the DWR stable of writers, are going to be short and sweet. This fine Victoria day, please sit back and enjoy some humour at the expense of our beloved conservative government.
Oh, I’ve just been full of anecdata as of late, but important events are important events. Intransigentia and I have qualified to adopt a senior Shetland Sheepdog. Shadow will be joining us on Sunday May 19th. Let the dog-awesomeness begin. Find your local humane services or Shares and donate some $$ or food to their cause, they are creating happy unions for people and pets across Alberta.
A poor quality picture is all we have right now, but rest assured gentle readers hi-res justice will be uploaded very soon.
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