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The first step to understanding privilege is recognizing the various forms and flavours it comes in. If you happen to be Asian and female, well, the fun(?) doubles as you get to deal with not only the misogyny, but the racism as well. Woo-haa! (Go to the tumblr Creepy White Guys for more examples.)
Just a few snippets of what women have to deal with:
And then of course, just to establish what a fine upstanding dude he really is…
No objectification going on here Ms.Facetitsass. None at all.
Embedding in wordpress sucks.
Thus, I am only able to provide the link to the video I would like you to watch. Jimquisition, featured on the pop culture gaming site The Escapist, puts crass behaviour and bombast squarely in the centre ring. Jim’s style is crude, but in the case of female protagonists in the gaming industry, serves to succinctly make the point about the blatant sexism in the gaming industry (and yet another reflection on the inherent misogyny in the culture).
So go watch the video here. Then come back and talk to me about how right or wrong I am. :) Also, do check out Zero-punctuation while you are there as the author of the game reviews are an inspiration for creatively using the english language.
Patriarchal Nonsense.
How many more examples do we need to understand that our society is still in love with patriarchy and misogyny? Adria Richards makes a reasonable gesture, calling people out for their crappy remarks, and for her trouble she is fired and gets rape and death threats.
We’re completely ready for the post-feminism society. For-sure. David Futrelle over at Manboobz has the story.
“And so the Internet has found a new woman to hate. Most of you are probably already familiar with the Adria Richards debacle that’s developed over the past several days. If not, Jill at Feministe has a good summary of events:
Adria Richards, formerly of the company SendGrid, was at a tech conference this week when some dudes behind her made a series of inappropriate and sexual jokes. Annoyed by the pervasiveness of misogyny in the tech world, she snapped a photo of them and put in on Twitter with a complaint. One of the conference organizers spoke to the men and they apologized. Totally reasonable! Good response, PyCon. Later, one of the dudes got fired. Instead of getting mad at the company that made the choice to fire him, the internet hordes descended on Adria. She was on the receiving end of rape and death threats. Her address and phone number were published. Her blog and her company’s website came under DDoS attack. Oh and then her company, SendGrid, fired her.
Like Jill, I think firing someone for a “dongle” joke is an overreaction, to say the least. But Richards wasn’t responsible for that; indeed, she told the fired man she hoped his employer would reconsider and take him back.
SendGrid’s firing of Richards is far more problematic. It’s one thing to get in trouble for acting like a sexist boor; it’s quite another to get in trouble for simply pointing out someone else’s problematic behavior. Richards faced a virtual lynch mob for simply documenting an example of the everyday sexism that permeates the tech world; by firing her, SendGrid essentially sided with the mob.
Is “lynch mob” an unfair term to describe those who’ve gone after Richards? No. In this context, the term is sadly apropos, as the target of all this online “activism” is not only female but black – two strikes against her in the minds of many of her, er, “critics,” who attacked her as a “fucking nigger” as well as a “cunt.” (The more genteel racists referred to her derisively as a “diversity hire.”)”
Oh hey they are talking about this on Pharyngula as well – consider this comment:
“I’m just going to go ahead and re-quote what JAL: Snark, Sarcasm & Bitterness said in #74, because it bears repeating for the folks who keep insisting that Richards brought everything down on herself solely because of how she raised her objections:
Every single day, all damn day women are subjected to this kind of shit and there’s no reason to give “mercy”. We’ve done the “guys please don’t do that”, remember how that turned out? Every fucking day at work, in public, even at home with our friends and families, we’re pressured to be quiet, speak softly, which adheres to that sexist “ladylike” expectation. FUCK THAT.
What is crystal clear in our culture is that IT DOESN’T MATTER HOW A WOMAN RAISES AN OBJECTION. She can be polite, she can say, “guys don’t do that” without even naming or identifying the person she’s talking about in any way, and go on to be incessantly harassed for over a year. Polite objections by women result in the exact same onslaught of violent hate speech, death threats, and rape threats.
So keep on focusing on what Richards did to “bring this on herself.” Just understand that by doing so, YOU are contributing to this culture of misogyny and YOU are part of the problem.”
So before we get any further please take the following piece of helpful advice to heart: Your experiences are not the experiences of others, thus take the time and really listen to what others are saying, before opining on what is going on.
Imagine, if you will, walking in a salubrious green meadow. The sun is shining, a cool breeze plays delicately with your hair, you’re lost in the rich tapestry of nature; all is well. Then imagine you step into a what appears to be the largest, most vile pile of dung and putrefaction you’ve ever seen. Silly you, taking off your shoes to enjoy the soft earth earlier, now only the rancid ichor squishes up from betwixt your piggies. Hold that image, dear friends because this is what happened to me while browsing the feminism tag in the wordpress reader. I came across this festering pustule of a web site and started reading one misogynists vapidly shallow thoughts on women and how they should act.
Let me replay some lowlights –
“Women, let me tell you something that your friends and many guys will not. Your tattoos are ugly. We do not like them. We respect you less for them. We think you’re a pawn without a sense of solidarity in a world that pressures you to conform.”
Can you feel the sense of dudebro entitlement flowing? I certainly can, and of course under the weighty guise of speaking for all men nothing but wisdom can flow. The jack-assery only gets worse.
“The fact that women with tattoos and piercings are exceptionally easy to conquer sexually with minimal effort always gets contested despite the universal anecdotal evidence to the contrary.”
The ugly misogyny on display is revolting. Sexual conquest, that would be the role women have. Not people, not human beings, conquests. Do note the appeal to “universal anecdotal evidence” – a synonym for “shit I make up and call it true”.
“Not down with some inked skank?”
Wow, the creeper detectors just melted down, do try and remember that skanks are actually women and by using degrading language you show only your limited intelligence and irrational hatred of women.
“the most obviously ugly and demeaning indicators of low social value that a woman can get.”
Mere opinion, but then again dudes have thought that they should have the right to police the bodies of women. Sorry deluded dude-bro, that era is over. Women could not care less about you and your ‘important’ opinions (well, other than show how craptacular they are).
“Why do men find these things so unattractive?”
As if you are an authority on anything, other than spewing vitriol toward women.
“When you go to a parlor and hop in a chair for some greaseball to stick a needle in you and play kindergarten doodle on your skin, you’re lending him a level of familiarity over you. Does this fall under the category of what the mainstream media calls “jealous men calling normal things cheating?”
Wait, what? Let me spell this out for you (typing slow). Women are not anyone’s property. I’ll repeat because the two neurons you may possess seem to fire only infrequently at best. Women are not property; the screwed up notion of ‘lending familiarity’ reek of patriarchal shite that has no place in a civilized society.
“A man has marked you and you will always carry his handiwork. What if you wore a necklace that another man gave you in the presence of your boyfriend or husband?”
The author of this piece would enjoy Saudi Arabia and the chattel-status of women, as it what he is overtly pining for, during most of his post.
“She also turned out to be quite the skank. Trufax.”
Your anecdotal evidence is underwhelming. And of course, your hatred of women is affirmed once again. Funny how women don’t (and shouldn’t) give you the time of day, ever.
“You will lower your social value by having one and limit your choice of potential suitors.”
If it keeps people like you out of the market, it makes tattoos a good, even desirable procedure.
The dude in question allowed one of my comments to appear, but his response is even more telling to his deep hatred and disrespect of women. I doubt, since he cannot answer simple arguments, that any more productive discussion will happen over there. In his manly machismo take-on-the-world facade he managed (cowardly) not to publish my second reply to his statement (getting smacked down must have hurt his man fee-fees), so I’ll do my response here dissembling his fatuous ass-hattery (again).
The RPOJ comes for thee BJ!
I had a sense on this one, as I was typing my reply to the burning stupid present on this site, that my commentary might not be published. Given that dudes, with what they deem to be important opinions, tend not to like being shown how audaciously wrong they are. I took it upon myself to save a copy of my reply. Much to my surprise(?) my comment did not make it past moderation, and thus, because of the supernovae grade idiocy on display, the commentary in question became a prime candidate for a RPOJ post.
This fine individual, I think we’ll call him Bobby-Joe, has some strong words for the female folk and how they need to behave to make his man-wishes come true and for society to continue to function. BJ’s notion of bodily autonomy and women’s rights fits nicely into to Dark Ages – I’m sure he and the New Pope-pitude could hate-fap for days about the nefarious wimmenz and their evil plot(s) to destroy mankind.
This RPOJ post is a little on the low-hanging fruit side because the exceedingly insipid nature of the argumentation, but hey, even dour feminists need some R and R once and awhile. So let us explore, together, the deep wisdom BJ expounds but cowardly won’t defend in his little corner of the Internet.
Let us begin:
“I have been looking for something to write a blog about and why not this(not naming the topic, in well, your topic sentence isn’t usually a good start BJ, unless of course you are deliberatly being obtuse to increase the tension, not that you have much choice…). It seems to be in my newsfeed a lot lately. And is definitely something (oooh! this may actually be purposeful) that cannot be ignored. You would not ignore a serial killer would you(Drama!! No, says the careful reader, we certainly would not!)?”
I believe women have the RIGHT to end their pregnancies (Wow! A firm statement of support for women and their autonomy, hurrah!), I also believe they have the RIGHT to be arrested and tried as a murderer for doing so (Oh, so close! Throwing your hat in with the crackling anal-fissures known as the forced birth movement just destroyed your credibility!). Just as anyone has the right to do whatever they want in this country (It would be nice if you would exercise the right not to act like a privileged, ignorant, misogynist bastion of douche-a-tude.) but they also have to face the consequences (and yours will be the upcoming excoriation of all the stupid shite you’ve written and posted on the internet.) for their decisions in this country.
I find the entire abortion thing hilarious (because the discussion surrounding the rights of women are of a particularly jocular nature…but full marks for setting up and then slam dunking the incredulity fallacy.) For a country trying to turn to “science” for answers, it is completely ignored when it comes to unborn babies (Let it be noted here that BJ does not have even the faintest idea was Science is, how to use it, or what it actually says on the topic of abortion). Science (One might, if not dramatically ignorant, delimit “Science” down to “Biology”) proves they are living things, unique, individuals (err…actually no, we haven’t been able to nail down when individuation happens) before the time that is deemed acceptable to end their lives in the womb. But for a society saying (BJ, speaks not only for science, but society as well – he is well and truly and expert of many, if not all fields.) to turn to science and not religion, we sure are avoiding science (BJ’s interpretation of what science “says” can be interpreted as “what my inept seedy little mind shits out”) as much as possible when it comes to this. Why? Because it supports what “religious freaks” have been saying.
At this time, I’d like to state that BJ neither cites, quotes nor accurately depicts anything resembling science, biology or, to be painfully honest, fact. Most of what follows is just the sketchy byproduct of the 3 or so neurons knocking around in his braincase. The RPOJ demands accuracy and completion, so gentle reader, we must continue fastidiously forewarned with this fabulous foray into fail.
This would be the same for everything if they could somehow get it to fit (so many pronouns, what do they refer too?), but with this, they cannot. Therefore, they have to ignore the science (‘Science’ being what I’ve recently pulled out of my ass and declared to be “fact“). If they looked at the science, abortion would be made illegal (“Science”, Binkey,…errr…BJ… says nothing about the moral/legal/ethical nature of abortion. Science deals with empirical knowledge, and that is it. It would be nice if you stopped pretending to be the spokesperson of “Science” or anything important for that matter.) and those undergoing the procedure or those doing it, would be arrested and put into prison for murder (because I understand what women have to go through during pregnancy and I ‘get’ the choices that women have to face when family planning, like totally. I’m not just some wanker with a fatuous opinion…) Murder is not acceptable in any case, only sometimes it is deemed as self-defense (contradicting yourself in the same sentence – I’m gobstruck by the amount of noise your intricate neural net must produce, maybe we can distill and bottle it as intellect depressant) but this cannot be claimed as such.
There is no reasonable cause to kill an unborn baby (ectopic pregnancies and host of other medical necessities be damned! Not to mention that whole treating women 
as people thing.). People can throw whatever emotional traps (that strange sound eminating from women demanding the right to their bodily autonomy. BJ, ensconced deep within your fortress of ineptitude, it might be valuable to consider that radical notion that women are people too.) forward to make you cry before giving in, but it does not change the facts (Fun Fact: everytime BJ says something is a fact, it provably isn’t! It is like some perverse episode of Jeopardy.). If I said this five-year-old child is going to make these parents broke in ten years as a hungry, rebellious teenager, does that give them the right to get rid of the child (If I said that your ass was actually your hat, would you be an ass-hat? – Of course you would, making irrelevant analogies firmly plants you in the realm of asshatery!)? I hope most people would say no, and be in outrage at the thought it. This is my thought (and what a mighty singular thought it was) when people say, oh, the parents cannot afford to have a baby, they will go broke, and they will be homeless.
[Skipping a paragraph because I’m running out of synonyms for “stupid”]
By logic I hear from pro-murder people (It is nice that you admit that logic is on the side of women, but then you just say inane things. In my original response I said that you mischaracterized the pro-choice position, but now in sombre second thought we can safely deduce you’re just confabulating a nice straw argument to bash the crap out of later.), is that the simplest solution to this is to stop of sex (Like the ides of March….beware of the “stop of sex”!!/!). If you want to end the problem before it becomes one with abortion, why not go one-step back and stop the process from happening in the first place (because sex only for procreation is such a realistic solution? *headdesk* )? If you are not on the page of being ready to have a child, do not initiate the process.
You would think that god would have a fairly good grasp of equality, being final arbitrator and high mucky-muck an all that bally-ho. Apparently not, as it would seem that none of the major religious texts seem to think that men and women are (or should be) equal, and in fact, most advocate for women being in a subordinate position relative to men.
So the real question is that, if you happen to be female, why do you subscribe to a mindset that explicitly marks you as inferior class of people. People spend a lot of time trying to mask the fact that religion is a stinky shit sandwich. Certainly apologists can bleat about *interpretations* and what the words *actually* mean…
But really, no matter how much mayo you add, you’re still left with the steamy religious-turd-surprise of a shit sandwich that is undeniably, corrosively, wholeheartedly misogynistic to its very core.
But gosh and wow, all at once. There is a sociology paper to be written about this phenomena, the great mystery of why… oh why… ‘nice guys’ cannot get with women. Actually wait, it needs to be feminist paper…or actually a feminist sentence.
If women aren’t into you it is because they see something they don’t like about you.
There is nothing after that. No friend zone BS, no nice guys finish last BS, no projecting of insecurities BS. If you’re having problems with forming a relationship with women it is most likely because you are a douche-cake and have not taken steps to rectify the situation. The Tumblr called “nice guys of Okcupid” [ed. The tumblr was shutdown, I have no idea when or if it will back up// Online with new ownership] provides evidence of this phenomena. Pay special attention to the misogyny, racism and homophobia (no idea why these gems of people are not being snapped up, gals lets get in there!).
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