This piece from Linda Tirado – describes her experience of what it is like to be poor and how that works into your life and your goals… go read the full article at Alternet.org.
“I make a lot of poor financial decisions. None of them matter, in the long term. I will never not be poor, so what does it matter if I don’t pay a thing and a half this week instead of just one thing? It’s not like the sacrifice will result in improved circumstances; the thing holding me back isn’t that I blow five bucks at Wendy’s. It’s that now that I have proven that I am a Poor Person that is all that I am or ever will be. It is not worth it to me to live a bleak life devoid of small pleasures so that one day I can make a single large purchase. I will never have large pleasures to hold on to. There’s a certain pull to live what bits of life you can while there’s money in your pocket, because no matter how responsible you are you will be broke in three days anyway. When you never have enough money it ceases to have meaning. I imagine having a lot of it is the same thing.
Poverty is bleak and cuts off your long-term brain. It’s why you see people with four different babydaddies instead of one. You grab a bit of connection wherever you can to survive. You have no idea how strong the pull to feel worthwhile is. It’s more basic than food. You go to these people who make you feel lovely for an hour that one time, and that’s all you get. You’re probably not compatible with them for anything long-term, but right this minute they can make you feel powerful and valuable. It does not matter what will happen in a month. Whatever happens in a month is probably going to be just about as indifferent as whatever happened today or last week. None of it matters. We don’t plan long-term because if we do we’ll just get our hearts broken. It’s best not to hope. You just take what you can get as you spot it.”
But what kills me, after reading article is going to the crowd sourced funding page and looking at the comments. I stopped after the first 40 because of the accusations and the scrutiny. People are horrible and inhumane, especially so when they think that a poor person might be scamming the system. If they only held the actual scammers (Wall Street et al.) in such high contempt…




7 comments
December 5, 2013 at 6:59 am
john zande
“Poverty is bleak and cuts off your long-term brain.”
That is a powerful sentence
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December 5, 2013 at 8:36 am
syrbal-labrys
Aren’t people assholes? I have learned not to read comments the majority of the time because it makes me want to bite people! I know people poor like the writer above; and while I do grind my teeth at some choices they make I understand the why of a lot of it.
And yes, if rich, well-educated REAL choice-endowed sorts were held to some standard judging their selfish choices, oh what a world of difference.
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December 5, 2013 at 8:54 am
The Arbourist
@Syrbal
It reminds me of how our climbing instincts kick in when we are drowning. We’ll just climb over people trying to rescue us, unthinkingly imperiling both parties. I see that in the comments – how dare that poor person change their status – people trying to get out of the pit of despair being clawed and hauled back in by the rest.
What is that? I’m guessing a toxic combination of envy and assholery.
Unfortunately, they make the rules in their favour and thus are not held to the standards that the poor are.
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December 5, 2013 at 9:42 am
syrbal-labrys
Except in a primal fashion, the rich are held the same standards. I believe both the poor and the rich and the drowning all make the terrible heartless decisions they do based on fear.
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December 6, 2013 at 7:43 pm
VR Kaine
I haven’t seen the negative comments, only hers on her blog? Maybe I’m not looking in the right place. A question, though – do you think these people commenting negatively are actually rich people, or instead, “wannabe’s” that can only step on the heads of the poor and downtrodden to act like they’re somehow above them?
Either way, I think what this woman has done is both positive and enterprising, assuming that it’s honest. If so, then good for her and I hope she uses the $60k+ she’s made to change her stars.
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December 9, 2013 at 5:52 pm
Mera
This was a hoax of sorts, written by a privileged white woman.
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December 9, 2013 at 6:30 pm
The Arbourist
@Mera
Evidence?
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