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But women-only spaces in Rape Crisis Centres, refuges, women’s centres or women-only buildings or events, etc are spaces where women are not required to make all the mental self-adjustments to function in the presence of men. Women survivors and feminists (many of us both) created these spaces because we know how important this is.
For many women and girls, the boundaries between domestic and sexual violence and abuse, are very much blurred. For some this abuse includes prostitution and other forms of sexual exploitation too.
It’s not unusual for women who’ve been subjected to men’s violence to develop a trauma response. These sometimes develop after a single incident of violence, particularly with regards to sexual violence, though sometimes it can develop after years or months of living in fear, walking on egg-shells, recognising that tone of voice, that look in the eyes, that sigh, that pause, that silence, that change in his breathing. Some women have lived this, with a succession of perpetrators starting from their dad – who may have been physically, sexually or emotionally violent, abusive and controlling or a mixture of them all – all their lives.
Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) can develop in response to trauma that may have occurred…
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I recommend not playing the pronoun game with people. It is a disservice to your autonomy and really, your allegiance to the material reality we all share. When someone demands your disbelieve your senses for their validation it becomes a problem.
Playing the pronoun game is like a taking a gateway drug as it leads you to endorse even more fantastical claims. Human beings cannot change sex, and yet men will tyrannically try and police one’s correct use of language.
I have no problem identifying that male from his aggressive behaviour. Male violence and dominance displays don’t magically change if men wear their hair long and start wearing pink. Calling him a sir corresponds to reality. What responding to the reality we all share doesn’t do is validate his subjective gender identity – here’s the rub though, no one is obligated to so. And really, we shouldn’t because the bullshit above leads to bullshit like this below:
Men in female prisons. Male sex offenders in female prisons. What could possible go wrong? Of course, here in Canada we’re all aboard the unreality train and have made male sex offender’s dreams cum true.
Yeah, so I won’t be playing the pronoun game anytime soon as I support the rights and boundaries of females in Canadian society.
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