“A therapist once said to me, “If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time.” It is wisdom I have passed on to many others since. If a refusal saddles you with guilt, while consent leaves resentment in its wake, opt for the guilt.
Resentment is soul suicide.
-Gabor Maté. When the Body Says “No”. p.257
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August 29, 2015 at 10:47 pm
VR Kaine
Great advice, and I think it applies to anything, not just refusals. Resentment is a very wicked evil, rooted in an ego which is cunning, baffling, and powerful. It can twist a soul* into eternal agony, not just kill it.
*(a “soul” in the figurative sense, not the Biblical one :) )
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August 30, 2015 at 11:22 am
Pamela Mac Neil
Gabor Mate. a man of great compassion and integrity.
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August 30, 2015 at 2:06 pm
syrbal-labrys
Resentment is a waste of time. Simply take revenge, if nothing else except the revenge of living better than whoever pissed you off to begin with.
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August 31, 2015 at 9:00 am
The Arbourist
@Syrbal
Sounds like a good plan to me. :)
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