I recommend not playing the pronoun game with people.  It is a disservice to your autonomy and really, your allegiance to the material reality we all share.  When someone demands your disbelieve your senses for their validation it becomes a problem.

Playing the pronoun game is like a taking a gateway drug as it leads you to endorse even more fantastical claims.  Human beings cannot change sex, and yet men will tyrannically try and police one’s correct use of language.

I have no problem identifying that male from his aggressive behaviour.  Male violence and dominance displays don’t magically change if men wear their hair long and start wearing pink.  Calling him a sir corresponds to reality.  What responding to the reality we all share doesn’t do is validate his subjective gender identity – here’s the rub though, no one is obligated to so.  And really, we shouldn’t because the bullshit above leads to bullshit like this below:

 

 

Men in female prisons.  Male sex offenders in female prisons.  What could possible go wrong?  Of course, here in Canada we’re all aboard the unreality train and have made male sex offender’s dreams cum true.

Yeah, so I won’t be playing the pronoun game anytime soon as I support the rights and boundaries of females in Canadian society.

“Trans activism is a massive experiment in what happens when you accommodate serious mental issues as perfectly within societal norms. Trans activism can justify – or at least mitigate – behaviour like screaming “Witch” in a woman’s face because they’ve essentially adopted a social model of trans rights: the behaviour exhibited by any given trans person is communication in service of being listened to, and fellow trans activists will see the fact that it’s not them being screamed at as supporting the idea that if only society wasn’t so transphobic, distressed people wouldn’t find themselves forced to communicate in this way. And that is what provides a safe space for male people to be publicly abusive to women.”

   –From the substack of Graham Lineham

 

Something went wrong between the 2nd and 3rd wave of female political action.  The class based analysis so firmly rooted in the second wave seemed to have been gradually pushed to the margins and replaced with a the conception of intersectionality that in its initial phase could have gone hand in hand with the more traditional feminist analysis.  Intersectionality is the idea that people can experience different layers of discrimination simultaneously based on their race, sex, and class served to furtherfill out traditional radical feminist theory and increase the sensitivity toward women with diverse race and cultural backgrounds.

So far so good?  Right?

Well it would be all good if we just incorporated this utilitarian and useful 3rd wave innovation.  The notions of ‘identity’ and ’empowerment’ were also gifts from the third wave and where some of the analysis began to go off the rails.

From the notion of ’empowerment’ we get most of the dead branch known as Liberal Feminism that is about doing actions in society, that if they feel good and make you feel good, they are in fact empowering acts.  This leads to the idea that activities like pole dancing and stripping can be ‘feminist’ acts because they are empowering the individual woman with agency (?) and power within society.

Many feminists would pause here because like most features of society, patriarchy operates on the macro as well as the micro level.  To return to our previous example, the occupations of both pole dancing and stripping may indeed provide empowerment on the level of the individual, but on a boarder social analysis both serve the male gaze and continue to reinforce the commodification and objectification of the female body.  So perhaps we can see where some friction exists between these two theoretical feminist standpoints.

The notion of identity is also useful in certain contexts because it allows discrimination and oppression that exist within society to be categorized and analyzed with greater precision.  Identity is a tonic against the sometimes homogenizing nature of theoretical work and allows theory and praxis better able to respond to the needs of women from diverse backgrounds.

Identity has now metastasized.  In certain ideological circles it rests above nearly all other theoretical concerns.  More importantly the notion of identity has been severed from the social, material reality we all share.  What we think about ourselves now has a certain reified air that precludes any sort of questioning or critical examination.

For instance, it is now popular to ‘come out’ as non-binary.  Being non-binary is a vague notion that an individuals personal expression isn’t tied to their sex  – so a male person can have a ‘boy-day’ or  ‘girl-day’ depending on their mood.  You gentle reader, would not be alone in concluding that people claiming be non-binary may just be fulfilling the need to feel edgy and special in society.  It’s nice to stand out I suppose, but adopting male or female stereotypes and demanding that others play along with your wacky pronouns and related charade seems like a rather cumbersome and ultimately anti-social way to go about achieving that goal.  Furthermore, since no person embodies all of the stereotypes of their sex but rather a mixture of the two, we are all, in fact, non-binary (just with less narcissism that those boldly ‘coming out’).

Another particularly problematic aspect that has arisen is the notion of self identification and that one’s personal declaration of gender somehow overrides the societal norms and expectations we all follow.  The most common point of friction is when men, because they have gender feelings, decide that they are women and should therefore have access to female spaces, services, and sports.  The problem is that self id does not change the male socialization, nor the male patterns of behaviour that require all inhabitants of the class of men to be excluded from female only spaces.

Transgender ideology is deeply misogynistic.  Women who disagree with gender ideology and men in their spaces are ostracized, threatened, and called bigots because they have the temerity to raise concern with the erosion of their boundaries and sex based rights within society.  Transgender ideology is also an impediment to the safeguarding of women and children as again, male gender-feelings are given precedence over female safety in society.  The conflict will not resolve until the men involved in the transgender movement respect female boundaries and the female ‘no’.

Being gender diverse is fine, but one must respect the material realities of sex and sex based oppression that exist within our society.

 

   It is wise to seek council from many voices especially on the topic of children experiencing gender dysphoria.  The professionals here seem quite biased toward a medical solution to for this family’s child.  They seem unaware of what is going on in the UK and the unwarranted medication of children:

Keira Bell, one of the claimants in the case, started taking puberty blockers at the age of 16 after being referred to the Tavistock and Portman Trust, which runs the UK’s only Gender Identity Development Service (Gids).”

The following account documents the experience of a family who attended a one-hour appointment at SickKids Gender Clinic in Toronto where they were told their daughter was a good candidate for the puberty blocker Lupron and would be able to start receiving the injections at the next appointment.

Yet here in Canada we seem to be all gung ho for medical intervention, as opposed to the more conventional and safer watchful waiting approach.

Sick Kids Gender Clinic Review

Several years ago, our 14 year old daughter advised us that she was transgender and wanted to be a boy.  Over the next several months – although often requested – she did little to elaborate on her feelings or any other information on how or why she felt this way.  Our family doctor counselled her a few times and she saw one psychologist once and a psychotherapist approximately three times before we sought out a referral to the gender clinic at Sick Kids hospital in Toronto.

Approximately one year after our daughter had suddenly begun to identify as a boy, we attended Sick Kids Hospital. We filled out a survey as did our daughter asking questions about our daughter’s childhood. We had an interview session with a physician and a male student observer as a family for about 30 minutes. The context that we gave to the counsellors during our portion of the session was that we felt that at least one of our daughter’s peers had greatly influenced this transgender epiphany.  Further, she had recently been seeing a psychotherapist that was coaching her on what to say to Sick Kids to get hormone treatment right away.  Our daughter had disclosed this to us after the third visit with this therapist.  Lastly, her gender dysphoria had come about suddenly with the onset of puberty at age 14 with no previous indication of gender identity issues.  Our daughter denied all of this during this interview. 

We were asked to leave and our daughter then spoke with them without us for another 15 minutes. After that, we were invited back into the room and advised that they could not disclose what was discussed citing confidentiality but that our daughter did in fact have gender dysphoria.  Further, they considered her to be a good candidate for Lupron but they could not give her a prescription until we had blood work done and the mandatory 3 month waiting period was complete. They handed us a lab requisition form for the blood work further stating that on our next visit they could administer the hormone blockers if the blood work was done.  

We asked to speak to the counsellors in the absence of our child so we could express more detail about our concerns without upsetting, alienating or damaging our relationship with our daughter. They refused, stating that the confidentiality was with her, not with us and whatever we said to them without our daughter present they would just tell her anyway so we might as well say it in front of her.  We questioned the safety and hastiness of the drug administration.  We were advised “the sooner the better” and that Lupron simply puts puberty on hold and is fully reversible, which we knew is not entirely true. They commended us on our knowledge of the hormone blocker Lupron but totally ignored our concerns and minimized the risks

We left the hospital shocked at the outcome. Not feeling that a one-hour long interview with a child and ignoring all parental input and concerns was sufficient to start on a course of hormones.  We never returned to Sick Kids hospital. 

Our daughter is now 17 and continues to identify as transgender, but has not expressed any desire to take any sort of medical intervention since our visit to Sick Kids. She continues to function well emotionally, socially and academically.  She has close friends with which she socializes outside of school, works part-time and is on the honour role. 

The recent surge of gender activism has not given Canadian society enough time to properly examine many issues surrounding the transing of children, or even the efficacy of taking cross sex hormones and the medical commitments and downfalls that come part in parcel with trying to change your sex.

  Political practice in the US often seems to centre around everything but the facts of any given issue.  The pandemic being one of the most obvious examples.

So, we ignore the real-world material evidence of what Denmark is doing with their Corona Pass and continue to prevaricate in our approved left/right ideological ways.

Can we just be pragmatic for once with a touch of utilitarian goodness on the side?  Wouldn’t that be nice?

David Rovics writing for Counterpunch describes the pandemic angle of the left/right folly that is occurring in the US and to a certain extent, Canada.

“So when it comes to public health measures necessary to get a pandemic under control, much of the public is skeptical. They may be described as skeptical about vaccines, but I’d say it’s a skepticism, if that’s the right word, that far transcends any particular thing like that. It’s more a generalized skepticism of anything the government — any government, or particular ones, depending — might propose.

The far right is horrified by the idea of what in Denmark is known as a Corona Pass — a form of ID that verifies you have been vaccinated and have tested negative, in order to be allowed to do things like fly in a plane with other people, sit down in a cafe, attend a festival, etc. Through widespread vaccination and the use of the Corona Pass system, Denmark has thus far avoided the fourth wave of the pandemic that is killing so many people, especially in countries like the US, India, and Brazil.

But we can’t do that kind of thing, we hear from voices on the right, because maybe the virus doesn’t exist, or maybe the vaccine causes more sickness than the virus does, or even if the virus does exist and vaccines are good generally, these vaccines haven’t been tested enough, and if they have, people shouldn’t be required to take them, because that’s an infringement on their God-given individual rights. Their freedom to live free means they might have to die free, which is better than obeying a government mandate. And then add to the mix the fact that the only government mandates in the US that exist with regards to this pandemic so far are completely piecemeal, local, and therefore ineffective.

And then from the corners of the left we hear that having information like our vaccination status publicly available to the relevant authorities is the next step towards total control of everything by Big Brother, and as soon as we all have submitted to the magnetic strips on our ID cards, the next step are those FEMA concentration camps that the Spectrum always agree are waiting for all of the dissidents. Which dissidents will end up in those camps would be the main point of contention on the Spectrum.”

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